Family Constellation therapy seeks to contribute to the healing of the world by addressing and transforming patterns of pain, trauma, and conflict that exist within individuals, families, and communities.

Family Constellation Therapy, also known as Systemic Constellation Therapy or Family/Systemic Constellations, is a therapeutic approach that originated from the work of Bert Hellinger, a German psychotherapist.

It aims to address and resolve hidden dynamics within families or systems that may be causing emotional and psychological issues in individuals.

Meet the Team at Family Balance NZ

Jo Amrein-Palairet

John Palairet

Tessa Hayson

Jo Amrein-Palairet grew up in Tauranga, Aotearoa New Zealand, and was born in Taupō. With ancestral roots in Switzerland, Scotland, and Ireland, she is the youngest of three children. Jo has recently completed her postgraduate studies in counselling and guidance, complementing her passion for Family Constellation Therapy.

In addition to holding a teaching degree with a focus on special education, Jo is a trained facilitator in Family Constellation Therapy, Yin Yoga, and Reiki. She is dedicated to bringing Family Constellation Therapy to individuals and communities, having witnessed its transformative power time and again.

Together with her husband, John, Jo offers workshops that explore relationships and generational healing. They share a deep commitment to helping others break free from inherited patterns and find balance in their lives.

Having navigated her own journey of healing from personal and generational trauma, Jo describes Family Constellation Therapy as profoundly freeing—often magical in its ability to reveal and heal what lies beneath.

John Palairet is a dedicated Family Constellation Therapy facilitator with a passion for supporting others in breaking free from generational patterns and finding harmony in their lives. With a background as a professional BMX racer and eco-conscious carpenter, John brings a grounded, practical approach.

Alongside his wife, Jo, John co-facilitates workshops focused on relationships and family dynamics. His calm, compassionate presence creates a safe space for participants to explore, heal, and transform their stories.

John’s journey into Family Constellation Therapy was born out of his own experiences of growth and healing. He believes in the power of this work to create meaningful, lasting change for individuals, families, and communities.

Family Constellation Services We Offer

All our services have options available for payment plans. Feel free to get in touch with us to discuss your needs.

In Person

Online

Group Workshops

TRAINING
Introduction to
Family Constellation Therapy –
5-Month In-Person

Facilitated by Jo Amrein-Palairet | Family Balance NZ

For those ready to explore the healing potential of systemic awareness.

This in-person training is designed for individuals who feel the call to go deeper—whether for personal growth, to enhance an existing practice, or to begin the path of becoming a constellation facilitator.

Over five months, we will immerse ourselves in the foundational principles of Family Constellation Therapy, exploring how inherited patterns, unresolved trauma, and ancestral entanglements shape our lives. This training is experiential, embodied, and deeply held in a safe, trauma-informed space.

No prior experience is required—only curiosity, openness, and a readiness to explore your own system.

Training Details

Location: Lower Kaimai, Bay of Plenty
Duration: 5 months | 1 weekend per month (in person)
Group Size: Intimate and supportive (max 12 participants)

For Parents Navigating the Social Media Age

Raising children in today’s digital world comes with unique challenges. Social media can shape how they see themselves and interact with others, often in ways we can’t fully control. As parents, it’s natural to feel concerned and wonder how to guide them through this fast-changing landscape. Family Balance provide's a supportive space to explore family patterns that may influence your child’s experiences, offering insights and tools to foster deeper connection, resilience, and healthy boundaries. Together, we can help you feel more empowered in guiding your children toward balanced and confident lives.

For Parents of Boys

Raising boys in today’s world can feel both rewarding and overwhelming. As parents, we may encounter challenges around emotional connection, societal pressures, and the impact of modern influences like social media. Family Constellation Therapy provides a powerful space to explore the underlying dynamics that affect our relationships with our sons. It can help release inherited patterns, foster deeper understanding, and create a foundation for more open, meaningful connections. This work supports parents in empowering their boys to grow with confidence, resilience, and a strong sense of belonging.

Unlock the Full Potential of Your Love

Relationships can be both beautiful and complex, revealing the depths of our love while also highlighting unspoken patterns and hidden tensions. Family Constellation Therapy offers couples a safe and transformative space to explore these dynamics and uncover what may be influencing their connection. This work supports healing past wounds, breaking unhealthy cycles, and deepening understanding and intimacy. Whether you’re seeking clarity, renewal, or growth, it invites you to create a more authentic and harmonious relationship together.

What Is Family Balance NZ?

Family Balance NZ is a unique and innovative team of family constellation facilitators, dedicated to healing and enhancing family dynamics through the transformative practice of family constellation therapy. This concept centres around the idea that each family is a complex web of interconnected relationships and emotions, and that understanding and healing these bonds can lead to greater harmony and well-being.

The team of facilitators specialises in multigenerational healing, acknowledging that family patterns and traumas can transcend generations. They work with clients to uncover hidden dynamics that might be affecting their lives and relationships today, often reaching back several generations.

What Is Constellation Therapy?

Family Constellation Therapy is a therapeutic approach rooted in systemic constellations, aiming to address and resolve unresolved family dynamics, intergenerational patterns, and emotional conflicts that may be affecting an individual's well-being.

This therapy aims to resolve conflicts and traumas by acknowledging and honouring the past, creating a new awareness of the family system, and facilitating a shift in perceptions and emotions. By doing so, it is believed that healing can extend through generations.

A key principle of this therapy is that unresolved issues or emotions can be carried across generations, impacting the mental, emotional, and even physical well-being of family members. Family Constellation Therapy seeks to break destructive patterns and promote healing across multiple generations.

After Your session

After participating in a Family Constellation session, it is important to engage in self-care to process and integrate the experience. Allow yourself some quiet time after the session.

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Jane Smith

Family Constellations is such a dynamic healing process. I have gained many insights into my own family system and healed those parts of me that needed shifting. The shifts are fast and require self-care as the healing process takes place. Jo is an intuitive and kind facilitator. She holds space for the vulnerability that unfolds and provides the insights required during a constellation. I am so grateful for the sessions I have had and will continue to have. To have an avenue to release hidden trauma and change the family system is such an amazing gift.

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TESTIMONIAL

I have worked with Jo to uncover and understand the layers of me and where I come from. This work is truly amazing. It is fast and effective compared to the other forms of therapy I have tried. Jo is a kind and caring therapist. I feel like I can trust her with the most sensitive parts of my psyche. She holds no judgment and makes me feel supported as I unravel parts of me. I feel like a completely different person today because of Family Constellation.

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