Constellation Therapy

Family constellation is a groundbreaking process that reaches into the underlying impulses of family,  trauma, emotions, beliefs, and burdens and the damaging repetitive patterns of behaviours that are limiting your life in some way. 

As you participate in a family constellation session, you will be able to see, feel, and release whatever has been undermining or preventing you from moving forward.

Everyone of us belongs to a multitude of systems. The family we are born into, schools we attend, groups of friends, teams we work with, organisations we work for, communities we engage with, the society we live in, religious and spiritual beliefs, countries and cultures we are born into, and the ones we live in.

Each system may have an overlap or varying set of beliefs, standards, values, expectations, go's and no-go’s interwoven with our emotional DNA. Some forces are visible, many are invisible. These often hidden forces create our dynamics and behavioral patterns, without us knowing it’s happening.

In family constellations, as we take a step back we allow our bodies to speak their mind while we explore, enquire, and reveal what has blocked or interrupted the flow. By allowing the unseen to be seen we can remember what has been forgotten or suppressed and integrate the resources we need to take care of our souls.

This isn’t family therapy with the whole family being present.

It’s a safely held space for You, to explore your relational dynamics, patterns, and entanglements and find your next true move, forward facing, in your life.

Orders of Love

Orders of Love is a concept central to Family Constellation Therapy, developed by Bert Hellinger. It refers to the natural principles that govern healthy family systems and relationships. The understanding and acknowledgment of these principles are believed to contribute to the healing and harmony within a family constellation.

The first order is the principle of belonging, which emphasises that every family member has an inherent right to belong to the family system. This includes acknowledging and honoring the presence of each family member, regardless of their circumstances or actions. Each person's place within the family system is considered essential, and denying someone's rightful place can lead to imbalances and disruptions within the system.

The second order is the principle of hierarchy, which recognises the importance of a clear and healthy hierarchical order within the family system. This order is typically based on the natural order of generations, with parents or older generations holding a higher position than their children or younger generations. When this order is disrupted, such as when a child is burdened with responsibilities that belong to the parent, it can create confusion, resentment, and difficulties within the family dynamics.

The third order is the principle of a balanced exchange of giving and taking within relationships. It suggests that there should be a fair and reciprocal flow of love, support, and resources among family members. When this balance is disrupted, such as when one family member consistently gives without receiving or vice versa, it can create feelings of imbalance, guilt, or resentment. Restoring this balance is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships and harmony within the family system.

By understanding and respecting these Orders of Love, Family Constellation Therapy seeks to address and heal imbalances, traumas, and unresolved issues within the family system. The therapeutic process often involves uncovering hidden dynamics, acknowledging and honouring the systemic principles, and finding resolutions that restore the natural flow of love and support among family members.

It is important to note that the concept of Orders of Love is a framework and guideline within Family Constellation Therapy, and its interpretation and application may vary among practitioners. The specific dynamics and needs of each family constellation are considered when working with the Orders of Love in therapy.